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How To Make Cute Flashcards (or Blog Graphics) in PicMonkey

April 30, 2013 By: Stephanie1 Comment

Nicholas is in kindergarten and learning sight words.

His teacher sends home an updated list every few weeks of the words he is supposed to know.

One of the easiest ways to memorize them is with flashcards.

I like to use PicMonkey software because it’s free, quick, and easy. Shhhh…this is the same method I use to make the graphics for all of my blog posts. Like this one:

Make your own flashcards with PicMonkey

STEP 1: Upload a picture to PicMonkey. It can be any picture, it doesn’t matter what it looks like because you are going to cover it up.

Step 2:Go to the Overlays section on the left hand side and choose “Geometric Overlay.” Click on the rectangle option and adjust the size until it covers your entire picture. Change the color of the overlay to white.

Make flashcards with PicMonkey

Step 3: Merge the layers. Look at the top of the screen in PicMonkey. See the button second from the right that looks like two squares on top of each other with an arrow next to them? Click it.

PicMonkey

Step 4: Decorate. Now is the fun part. You can play around with the other overlays to add graphics or put a frame around your image.

Make simple sightword flashcards with PicMonkey

I like that they have some pretty cool boy-friendly graphics. We can make sentences for him to read or just put one word on each card.

STEP 5: Save your image. If you are creating several flashcards save them all as separate images.

STEP 6: Put all of your flashcards into a Word (or whatever processor you use) document.  You can insert them into a Word document by clicking Insert and choosing the picture option. Print them from there.

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Building the Dream: We Have a Hole! {the foundation}

April 24, 2013 By: Stephanie3 Comments

Last week was monumental in our house-building process. We broke ground! Our foundation has been dug and the Superior Walls we are using for the basement are scheduled to be delivered TODAY depending on weather conditions.

At the very least, we now have a gigantic hole in the ground and some beautiful blossoming fruit trees.

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It will still be quite some time (a month or so?) before the foundation is finished because the basement is only under part of the house. Once the walls are delivered and set, the rest of the foundation will need to be dug, block laid, all that fun stuff. Maybe this time next moth we will start to see walls go up?

Progress is progress.

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Abby’s Birthday (with Ice Cream Cone Cupcakes!)

April 23, 2013 By: Stephaniecomment

Sunday my middle daughter, Abby, turned four! We celebrated at home with her favorite ice cream cone cupcakes. 

In a very uncharacteristic move, Abby requested a pretty low-key weekend. She asked if we could go to Chic-Fil-A because they have a playground (which we did on Saturday, since they are closed on Sundays), make cupcakes, and open presents. Those were all pretty easy requests to accommodate.

We always make our cupcakes in ice cream cones because that’s the way my mom made them for me when I was a little girl.

It’s very easy to make ice cream cone cupcakes!

All you need is: 

-Ice cream cones

-Cake batter

-The things it says on the box you need in order to make the cake batter (eggs, oil, etc.)

Just make the batter according to the package directions, then fill the cones about 3/4 full with raw cake batter, place them in muffin tins, and bake according to the directions on the box for cupcakes. (Sometimes it helps keep them steady if you bake them in a muffin tin.) We found that 1 box of cake mix made 21 cupcake cones. Top them with your choice of icing and sprinkles. 

The kids love making ice cream cone cupcakes because it is easy for them to help, and they get to decorate and eat them as well. 

After the cupcakes we had a scavenger hunt to find her presents. (Dolls from the movie Brave.)

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Welcome to four, Abigail!

 

If you liked this post, don’t forget to pin it on Pinterest! 

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Homemade turkey soup recipe. Warms the soul and great for using left-overs!

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My First Book Signing!

April 22, 2013 By: Stephanie8 Comments

Last Thursday I had the amazing opportunity to travel to Philadelphia and attend a book signing as one of the authors of the new book I Just Want to Pee Alone.

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My husband took the entire day off from work so that I could have a chance to get ready in peace and head out early to beat some of the city traffic.

I drove to meet Meredith from The Mom of the Year at her house.  We have been online friends for about a year, but it was the first time we met in person. She was super brave (and maybe a little crazy) to trust me with her address. I even got to meet her kids and her sweet husband brought us some sandwiches from Subway for a quick dinner before we had to leave. Meredith’s sister, Adrienne,  also came with us to help us navigate, be our photographer, and calm our nerves.

There was a crazy amount of traffic driving into the city for our book signing, but Meredith did a great job not having a panic attack at the wheel and we made it with just minutes to spare. (Yes. We had never met before, but she gave me her address and I got in her minivan. That’s what blog friends do.) We even got an amazing parking space right outside of the store.   We were meeting Bethany from I Love Them the Most When They’re Sleeping, another one of the authors in the book, for the first time also. Bethany had organized the whole event at an adorable women’s active wear boutique called Indigo Schuy (pronounced “Sky”).

That’s Bethany on the left,  me in the middle, and Meredith on the right.

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The store really went all-out for our event. They had a masseuse doing free massages for the women who were waiting, a giant cake with the picture of the book and our names on it, and champagne. It was hopping the entire time, mostly due to the fact that Bethany seems to be one of the most popular people in the universe. Almost every person who came was connected to her in some way.

Our pens were busy for hours!

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It was so strange to actually have people standing in line waiting for our autographs. On the car ride there Meredith and I were a little worried that no one would show up, but it was packed!

We didn’t even have time to eat any of this awesome cake. Seriously, have you ever seen such a lovely toilet cake? As Bethany said, “The gold icing really classes it up.”

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We sold and signed a bunch of books, met a lot of new friends, and had a great time!

I had a long drive back, so I didn’t get home until almost 1am, and then Penny was up before 5. She did not get the memo that her famous mom (ha! yeah right) was out signing autographs until the wee hours of the morning and needed more beauty rest.

More book signings are in the works with our co-authors all across the country. If there is one in your area be sure to check it out. They are a ton of fun!

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The Scariest Moment

April 18, 2013 By: Stephanie3 Comments

I don’t like to talk about this, but I have a nagging feeling that has been weighing on my heart. It is a familiar feeling, the one that means someone needs to read my story. It is the very reason why I write. This goes out to whoever you are…

I believe that after I delivered my middle daughter I had a mild case of postpartum depression. I was able to get by and I thought I was just having trouble adjusting to my new role as a stay-at-home mom. I thought that tired and a little sad was the new me and I would begin to feel lighter as my kids grew up and life became less mundane.

My experience with postpartum depression

That being said, I was excited to discover we were expecting another baby. Somehow I felt like being pregnant and then having a newborn gave my life a new sense of direction and purpose. It was strange, but as soon as she came I started to feel like my old self again. I was more comfortable with my body, more confident in my role at home as a mom of three, and just an all-around happier person.  She was such a good, easy-going baby.

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That is why I was shocked and terrified the day it happened.

The worst thought (or maybe second worst) that you can ever have as a mom, it invaded my brain like a parasite.

I was sitting there on the couch, watching Toy Story with my kids. I had just gotten off the phone with my husband, who was calling to tell me he was on his way home from work. It was just one thought, but it was scary and strange because it remains to this day the only thought that I have ever had that seemed as if it was planted by an outside source.

Like the scene in the movie Anchorman where Ron Burgundy is fired for reading inappropriate words from the teleprompter, it was as though someone else had written the thought and planted it inside my head. Only in my version, there was no comic relief.  I had no choice but to say the awful phrase because it was on the screen.

“Good. He’s on the way. That means if I kill myself now the kids won’t be unsupervised for long.”

The thought that immediately followed was WHAT THE HELL WAS THAT?!!!

It was the single most terrifying moment of my entire life. I was alone with 3 very small children and I honestly thought I might be going insane. Is this what crazy people mean when they say they hear voices in their head telling them to do things? Could I trust myself to be here with my kids for the next 40 minutes?

I knew I SHOULD call the doctor or some hotline or even 911, but I froze because I was terrified that my children would be taken away. The reports we have say that our son was removed from his birth mother because she was afraid that she was going to hurt herself and she couldn’t handle the pressure of being a mom. I didn’t want to risk him losing another family.

Besides, I didn’t actually want to hurt myself. I have NEVER actually contemplated suicide, I wasn’t thinking about ways to do it, I wasn’t writing notes, I didn’t want to do it at all. I loved our new family and my new life. It was just so strange that the thought entered my mind, completely uninvited.

I called my mom, who is a licensed therapist. She told me that what I was describing was called an intrusive thought and asked if I was on any new medication.

As a matter of fact, I was. The doctor had just written me a prescription for progestin-only birth control pills at my 6 week check up because I was nursing. I made my mom stay on the phone with me and I Googled side effects (which I should have known about before I started taking a new medication).  Sure enough, I saw, “In rare cases, less-common side effects can include depression and/or suicidal thoughts.”

Stupid little pills.

Needless to say, I stopped taking them immediately.

That is not to say that medication is bad, because it is not. If you feel like you may be experiencing depression or anxiety, by all means, speak to your doctor right away. Antidepressants and anti-anxiety medication are sometimes very necessary. In my case, though, it turned out that the medicine I was taking (which, just to be extra clear, was your average run of the mill birth control)  was causing much more harm than good.

I have not been on any medication for over a year now and this is honestly this is the best I have felt in my entire career as a mother. It is much easier to take care of me and find humor in the everyday. I feel like myself again.

Whether your story is similar to mine or exactly the opposite, I want you to know that you are not alone. There is a whole community of moms blogging to share their stories so that you know that we are right here in the trenches with you. That is lesson number one.

Lesson number two is that having a house full of three children ages 4 and under and a temporarily suicidal wife who is no longer allowed to be on birth control is the fastest way to get a man to volunteer for a vasectomy. True story.

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Imperfect: The Day I Forgot My Kid

April 16, 2013 By: Stephanie8 Comments

This is for you, yes you over there sitting on the couch in unwashed sweat pants and giving your kids cereal for dinner for the second night in a row.

You’re a good mom. They won’t remember the cereal. They won’t remember that you yelled when they spilled it. They won’t remember what you were wearing today.

You don’t have to be perfect to be good at this.

As a matter of fact, perfect and parenthood have kind of an inverse relationship. If you are a perfectionist I’m sorry to burst your bubble, but you probably aren’t very good at the parenting and if you are a really awesome mom you probably aren’t so worried about the perfect. (Have you ever heard Alexis Stewart, Martha’s daughter, talk about her childhood? It’s sad and uncomfortable.)

My middle daughter is turning 4 this weekend. Sure I could head over to Pinterest and plan a perfect party with a super cute theme and stress out and yell at her to not touch the rainbow cupcakes I spent 3 hours perfecting, but I’m not doing that this year. We are going to work together and bake cupcakes in ice cream cones because I told her those were my favorite when I was little and she wanted to do it too. They will look terrible and taste amazing. Then we will give her the toy we bought from the Disney store and she will be happy and we will call it good enough.

Because THAT is where perfection lies, in the land of Good Enough.

Case in point, you wouldn’t know it from the time stamp, but this picture was actually taken on Easter 2013.

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We’re all doing okay.

Friday was a pretty rough day for our little family, for example, but it was good enough to be quite a memory maker.

Eddie was off from work and we were going to drive up to the land where we are building our house. Construction was scheduled to start and we wanted to see the progress. Of course it was pouring down rain, so we weren’t even sure the work would get done.

We dropped Nicholas off at school and drove over an hour to a different state. Our car needed to be serviced, so we dropped it off and took the girls out to brunch at a nearby diner. Eddie was also hoping to get vaccinated for a mission trip he will be going on in a few weeks.

After brunch the car still wasn’t finished, so we walked to the dollar store and let Abby pick out some princess themed plates and napkins and a balloon for her upcoming birthday.

The car still wasn’t finished. We walked down the street to the tractor supply store to look at the baby chicks and ducks and pick up some oil for our riding mower. Abby was playing with the handle of a wagon and somehow managed to hit herself in the face, getting a big gash under her eye. Don’t worry, she is fine. She said it didn’t hurt as much as it seemed like it should have and actually didn’t even cry.

This is the part where I share with you that I forgot to pick up my son from school. It was around 12:30.  “Nicholas is in the office. Today was a half day. Please come and pick him up.”

Ummmm…sure thing. Oops. Except we are an hour and a half away from the school and don’t have access to our car at the moment. If you ever want to look like a REALLY bad mom, just go out in public with a child who looks like she has a black eye, hold a crying baby, and snap back and forth with your husband about whose fault it is that your other child has been forgotten.

Thank God my mom didn’t have to be at work for a few more hours and she was able to get to him in about 15 minutes and take him to my in-laws.

“We’ll be there as soon as we can.”

Except the car STILL wasn’t finished.

So I found myself changing Penny’s diaper on the dirty floor of a public restroom while we waited. For another hour and a half.

Eddie discovered that he wouldn’t be able to get an appointment for the vaccinations until the following week.

We eventually were able to get the car back and drive by the land on our way to get Nicholas and the work that had been scheduled WAS done. Yay. One piece of good news!

Later we left the kids with my mom  (again. poor mom.) and went to IKEA to place the order for our kitchen cabinets. (Remember when I was trying to decide? We’re going for it.)

We were there for 2.5 hours and couldn’t place the order because the storms had taken out their online ordering system. Eventually the store closed and at 9:30 Eddie and I found ourselves running through a Chick Fil A drive thru because we still hadn’t eaten. They got our order wrong.

Sometimes all you can do is laugh. Do I feel bad about not getting Nicholas?

Not really.

My mom told me that when she went to get him there were at least 20 other kids in the office. The school hadn’t put the half day on the calendar they send home for the month. I wasn’t the only mom who had absolutely no idea.

Nobody’s perfect.

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If you want more stories from moms encouraging each other by airing our imperfections, check out our new book, I Just Want to Pee Alone.

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My Parenting Victory (and a HUGE Giveaway with Chobani yogurt)

April 3, 2013 By: Stephanie2 Comments

Well, we did it. We survived the first year after adding our third baby. Miss Penelope (please note that I chose that name BEFORE the Kourtney Kardashian. Now it’s becoming really popular, which I’m a little disappointed about) is now 15 months old! For the past two weeks we have been working on a pretty big milestone and now it’s official: she is weaned.

I was so grateful to be able to nurse her because it was an experience I wasn’t able to have with my last two children. It was a very special time for both of us but I’m also thankful to have my body back, if I’m being honest. An added plus was that when she woke up in the middle of the night Eddie was extra willing to take care of it because if she saw me she would get upset and want to eat just because it was a habit, not necessarily because she was hungry. After two weeks of realizing she wouldn’t get fed in the middle of the night and extra rest for mommy, she is now sleeping through the night for 9 or 10 hours almost every day. I have extra time during the day to focus on my other kids and I’ve noticed that their behavior has been a little better. Nap time is a little harder. She has never taken a pacifier or wanted a special blanket or other comforting object, so she basically just wanted me to hold her the entire time she naps. I’m okay with that for now. Pretty soon we’ll be trading Easter dresses for prom gowns and I want to cherish these moments while I can.

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Raising kids isn’t easy, but Chobani Champions is all about celebrating the little victories in parenting.

I’m excited that such a big company approached a few blogging moms and wanted honest feedback on their product. I actually do regularly give my kids Greek yogurt for breakfast. I like that it is healthy, just as fast and easy as a bowl of cereal, makes fewer dishes for me, and all of the extra protein helps keep my kindergartener full until lunch time when he is at school.

Chobani sent us a few yogurt tubes for the kids to try and Nicholas really liked them. I put some in the refrigerator and some in the freezer. They make great substitutes for popsicles.

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Together with Chobani, we want to make YOU a winner.

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Enter below  to win 1 GRAND PRIZE* of a year’s supply of Chobani and Chobani Champions.  Yep, a year’s supply of that delicious, nutritious, protein-packed parenting victory known as Chobani greek yogurt.  Our grand prize winner will build a custom case for themselves to be delivered to their doorstep monthly, including 1 case of assorted Champions Flavors, 1 case of assorted Chobani Flavors and a bonus case of either Champions tubes, Chobani Bite or Chobani 32 oz cooking sizes.  Every month for a YEAR!*

 

10 Runners-up will receive one case of Champions Tubes delivered to their doors!

 

Giveaway begins April 3 and ends at midnight April 8.

 

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Building the Dream: Cabinet Considerations, IKEA edition

March 29, 2013 By: Stephanie17 Comments

I’m strongly considering putting IKEA kitchen cabinets in my brand new kitchen in my brand new, custom-built house. (I say “I” and “my” because I have the best husband ever who has agreed to do whatever I want in the kitchen as long as I stay within our budget.)

When I tell people that I think I want IKEA cabinets they look at me like I’ve lost my mind. I thought the same thing for a second. Back in December I was minding my own business,wandering around IKEA window shopping for Christmas presents while my kids were in the playland and I found myself drawn to one of their show kitchens. I was shocked at the quality and the options inside of each drawer and cabinet.

But I already have high quality shaker maple cabinets in my budget quote. We are very fortunate to be able to afford “better” cabinets. WHY would I ever consider IKEA? I won’t even buy my children furniture from IKEA. I’m kind of a snob.

Something kept pulling me back though, and I took Eddie to the showroom and he was impressed too.

I started doing more research.

Apparently their kitchen cabinets are much higher quality than most other IKEA products. I was shocked to see how many professional cabinet installers, architects, and designers had chosen IKEA cabinets for their own homes. Even Sarah Richardson.

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This photo is from “Sarah’s House.” I LOVE Sarah! And she’s even more particular than I am. Did you see the episode where she made her crew rip out and re-do an entire foundation for a house because it was about 2 inches off? She knows what she wants, and apparently IKEA is good enough for her.

I came across so many designers in my research who said that because of the way IKEA flat-packs their cabinetry, they have to use stronger joints than most other cabinet makers. Their joints and hardware (drawer glides, etc.) are on par with cabinets more than 5X the price. Say what?

Yep. Apparently it’s a well-known trick of the trade for kitchen designers to use IKEA cabinet frames and then just put other doors on them. Why pay three times as much for the same quality?

My friend Satoko has them in her kitchen and she’s happy with them.

They come with a 25 year warranty, which is just about unheard of.

They performed very impressively in a study done by Consumer Reports. The basic IKEA model outperformed ten other brands of higher cabinet grades, including names like Thomasville and KraftMaid.  Direct quote from Consumer Reports: “The ready-to-assemble Ikea outperformed much more expensive units, despite its low price. High-quality drawer hardware and doors and a robust mounting strip helped.”

In researching them for the past 3 months, over 99% of the reviews I have found from owners are overwhelmingly positive. The only negative reviews I saw came from a renter who wasn’t even 100% sure that the cabinets in his house were actually from IKEA and one guy who didn’t use the mounting strip and was upset that his cabinet fell off the wall.

Also, I have heard (although I haven’t been able to verify this) that because IKEA cabinets have to pass stricter European guidelines, they do not contain the type of formaldehyde that most other cabinet frames manufactured for the U.S. market do. Formaldehyde in furniture has proven to have a negative impact on air quality and has been linked to serious diseases. If what they say about the IKEA cabinets is true it would be a big plus for me, especially having small children in the home. Who wants dangerous chemicals seeping out of the cabinets where you store your food?

They can be made to look really attractive and custom.

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I like their online design tool. I put my own dimensions in and started playing around. This is not my final design, but, even if we do not decide to go with IKEA, it helped me get a better idea of how many cabinets will fit in our space.

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We also can’t ignore the fact that they are REALLY affordable. If we do go with IKEA cabinets I should be able to afford better appliances and counter tops and still stay on budget.

So far the cons are:

1. Some of the custom features I would like (but might not necessarily be able to afford anyway if we go with a different brand) such as a built-in, cabinet-front, counter-depth refrigerator, are not available.

2. It is going to be a major pain in the you-know-what for someone (not me) to have to assemble all of those cabinets.

3. The IKEA kitchen sale is happening right now. (This part is actually a plus) I could save 20% off the cost, which is a BIG savings on something like cabinets, but since the house isn’t built yet we would have to find somewhere to store everything or convince the store to hold onto it for an extra month or two. This also means I have to make a decision by April 28, before the sale ends.

Do you have any experience with IKEA kitchens? Do you love them? Hate them? Tell me why.

The kitchen is literally right in the middle of our house and open to all of our living space, so I’m scared to make a bad choice.

UPDATE: We DID go with IKEA. Our real kitchen layout looks like this: 

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You can click over and see my post about installing our IKEA kitchen and more pictures. 

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For Rene

March 27, 2013 By: Stephanie7 Comments

This post was originally written in February of last year. Since it was written some laws have changed and some are currently being debated. In light of  current events, I was asked by a lifelong friend to please re-post this today. So I did.

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You can view the original post and comments here.

This is not a post about craft projects and there are no pictures of my kids. There is an important issue going on here that I don’t feel comfortable ignoring any more. I haven’t seen my perspective represented anywhere & this is the only public forum I have, so I’m going to talk about it for a minute.

 

I’m a conservative Christian housewife living in Amish country. I’m a registered Republican. I voted for McCain. I’m strongly opposed to abortion, illegal immigration, and I do think homosexuality is a sin. And this is for my college friend Rene. Not my gay friend, just my friend who happens to be gay. And her wife.

I support gay marriage.

Why? Because to me whether or not our country should legalize the union of two people of the same sex is not an issue of morality, it is an issue of civil rights.

Is it sinful? Yeah, actually it is. It’s also sinful if I don’t go to church on a Sunday or if I cuss under my breath when the wrong contestant gets booted from American Idol. But I do that stuff and so do you.

Do I associate with gay people? Umm…do I associate with any people? Of course I do. If we refuse to hang out with people on the basis that we think they are sinners it’s going to be a pretty lonely existence. Newsflash: all people are sinners. Most of us aren’t being denied basic civil liberties because of it.”Last time I checked my watch, it still said America.” -Tim Allen

In our society right now people are outcast for being gay. You know who loved a good outcast? Jesus. You know who liked to persecute people who didn’t share his beliefs? Hitler. I’m not sure about you, but I’d much prefer to embrace the example of the former.

Did God make gay people gay? Yes. He made every human being and every one of us is a sinner. God loves every one of us despite our sinful nature. Hence, God loves gay people. Get over it Westboro Baptist “Church.” And P.S. Nobody is going to make me stop shopping at JC Penny.

Here’s the thing: it’s not the government’s job to regulate personal morality when it comes to issues that aren’t affecting the safety and well-being of others. That’s pretty much a fundamental Republican philosophy so I don’t understand why it doesn’t seem to apply to the gay marriage argument in real life.

In my mind it works like this:

Murder? Sinful + Harmful= Illegal.

Drugs? Sinful + Harmful = Illegal

Teenagers back talking their parents? Sinful + Not Harmful = Not Illegal

Gay marriage? Sinful + not harmful = _____________

It seems to me the logical answer to the question should be “not illegal.” Actually, it seems to be far more harmful to deny the gay community the advantages of a legal marriage.

My friend Rene and her wife are mothers to one very sweet little girl. They are mothers just like I am. As they have been anxiously awaiting Maryland’s ruling over the legality of their marriage, I’ve been reflecting on the benefits I take for granted as a woman in a traditional marriage.

The life insurance policies I would automatically have access to if something happened to my husband.

The tax deductions we just filed.

The fact that Eddie never had to go through the process of adopting our biological children, despite the fact that we never offered proof that he was their biological father. (Which, I can assure you, there is no question about.) The point is that even if he wasn’t, the hospital just gave him the rights to the children that came out of my body because we are legally married and I said he was the co-parent. When Rene had a baby Lauren had to wait months and pay thousands of dollars to adopt their own child and then go through hell trying to claim the adoption on the taxes.

We also have one adopted child and no one gave us a hard time about filing our adoption claim.

The right to adopt our son from Florida, the state where we were living at the time. I’m not sure about the current policy, but when we adopted Nicholas out of foster care in 2008 it was legal for gay couples in our state to foster children, but not adopt them. Consequently, there are foster children who have been living in loving foster homes for years with gay couples who lose yet another family when they become eligible for adoption and the couple who has been caring for them no longer has the option to do so if the child is to ever find an adoptive family. If the child stayed with the foster family he/she would lose the benefits that came along with being adopted, which at the time in Florida included a free college education.

My grandmother didn’t work, but she lived for years on my grandfather’s pension after she was widowed. What do gay couples do?

I am on my husband’s health insurance plan during these years I am home with my young children. What do gay couples do?

More importantly, what does a person’s sexual orientation have to do with things like health insurance, taxes and pensions?

When did we, collectively, become a society of adults acting like third grade bullies? Effectively, what we are saying is, “You can’t be in our club because you like girls.”

Well, I call bullshit, America.

I am tired of seeing teen suicides all over the news because we are constantly sending our children the message that to be gay is to be less than.

This is our generation’s version of Jim Crow and it is just as ridiculous.

I’m ashamed to say that I almost didn’t post this because I was afraid I’d turn off readers or offend people from my church. Or, alternatively, offend my more liberal friends from college. If I offended you I’m not sorry.

“My generation’s apathy. I’m disgusted with it. I’m disgusted with my own apathy too, for being spineless and not always standing up against racism, sexism and all those other -isms the counterculture has been whining about for years.”
– Kurt Cobain

It is the duty of every citizen according to his best capacities to give validity to his convictions in political affairs.
– Albert Einstein

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Building the Dream: FINALLY!!!!

March 27, 2013 By: Stephanie6 Comments

Well...that took FOREVER (a full year if you are counting, which I am) but we are finally set to close on our construction loan tomorrow and we have all of the necessary paperwork on file for our building and zoning permits.

We should be able to start actual construction next week and we are ordering the roof shingles and the pre-made Superior Walls for the basement. Now things should start happening pretty fast.

Our builder told us that the price of the shingles will be going up by about 10% within the next few weeks, so we need to pick the ones we want and place our order pronto. That means we also need to pick a siding color because how can you pick your roof if you don’t know the main color of your house?

I went to our local home improvement store and picked up a few samples for the siding, trim, and door colors. Thanks to my mediocre Photoshopping skills, I was able to get a better idea of what my Top 3 color choices will look like.

I am really leaning towards this yellowy cream color. I originally fell in love with this picture on our architect’s website and it still makes my heart flutter. This is not the house that we have plans to build, but we changed ours so that the exterior would look more like this one because I fell so hard for it.

exterior cream

I love the cream color. I think it looks classy and a little sophisticated, but still cozy. Sort of an upscale cottage, which is spot on my style.

I also really like the idea of a light blue coastal cottage feel, but I’m afraid that won’t translate as well in the midst of a Pennsylvania corn field as it would next to a lake.There is also more than likely going to be a lot of blue and white going on inside, so having this color scheme on the exterior might be a bit redundant.

exterior blue

Or we could go with gray, which is classic and would be fine, but when you are paying SO much money for something you want it to be more than just fine. I think Eddie might like this a little more than I do. It is stately and masculine, but to be honest, I think it’s a little boring and it kind of reminds me of Eeyore. I want the first impression to be light and happy and this feels a bit heavy to me.

exterior gray1

Your turn to weigh in. Which one would you pick?

 

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