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That Time I Used Glenn Beck’s Bathroom and Did Not Catch Ebola

October 30, 2014 By: Stephanie10 Comments

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I know you are curious about how our trip went, right? 

First of all, let me just say that Glenn Beck and his whole staff were lovely, kind, and generous, and I’m pretty sure none of them have Ebola. 

They are also located in Dallas, which I did not know before this whole ordeal, and I wasn’t sure how I felt about flying there in the middle of the whole Ebola thing. However, after being assured by a reader who lives in that area that I would be fine as long as I didn’t lick anyone, I was feeling much better about the idea. 

Do not lick Glenn Beck. Noted. 

So Monday Meredith and I boarded a plane and we flew off to Dallas to be part of a panel of women from across North America who were going to be live on the show to discuss the sexualization of clothing for young girls, which you already know is a topic that is very important to me. (If you are new here, this is why.) 

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We had no idea what to expect, so we were pleasantly surprised to be greeted at the airport by our own driver. 

We felt super fancy. Meredith made me pose for this picture. 

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We didn’t get in until late Monday evening, so we just ordered room service for dinner, watched tv, and went to sleep in our own beds in our own rooms- which is pretty much Heaven on Earth when you are a mom with young kids.  

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The next day we did not have to be on the set until the afternoon, so we just hung out in the hotel, ordered more food, and obsessed a little too much about what we were going to wear.

A very sweet lady from Meredith’s prayer group had emailed several Bible verses with personalized messages for us, so we read them out loud and prayed together in my hotel room.

Then it was time to leave for the studio. We met Dr. Janni Aragon and Pam Rocker in the car that took us to the studio. 

 

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Once we got there, they showed us to our own dressing room, which we were totally not expecting. 

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 I don’t know what we were expecting, but it was not this: 

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Here is Meredith partaking in the fancy pants sparkling water. (Yes, she is wearing a different dress than she wore on the show. We both decided to change at the last minute.)

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We were also feeling very spoiled by the fact that we had our own bathroom in our dressing room. 

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Do you know why you need to bring your best friend with you for tv interviews whenever possible? Because somebody has to be there to hold the microphone cord when you decide you have to pee after you are already mic’ed up. (After you double check with the sound guy that no one is listening to that channel and text a friend who is a producer to triple check and make sure it is really ok.) 

We got dolled up by the make up team.

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I totally geeked out and was too shy to talk to Abigail Jones from Newsweek while she was siting next to me in makeup. But she turned out to be a very kind soul and she actually came to our dressing room  to introduce herself and talk to us for a while. 

Obviously, all of that was a lot of fun and a very cool experience, but the truth of the matter is that we were there to do important work and raise awareness. 

So, at 4pm Central Time, we walked onto the set and met Glenn Beck and the crew told us where we would each be sitting. After only about a 5 minute introduction, we just dove right in and all of a sudden we were on live tv having a very important discussion in front of a live audience full of moms. 

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I want to sincerely thank Glenn Beck and his entire crew. They worked very hard for weeks to put this panel together and I feel like this was a very important show. My favorite part of the whole day was when Glenn’s daughter came up to us afterwards and shook our hands and told us how much it meant to her that we were there. I was honored to be part of this special experience. 

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If you were not able to catch the live version of the show, The Blaze has put a few clips up on their YouTube Channel. You can watch them here, and make sure that you are following along on the Binkies and Briefcases Facebook page because I am not done with this topic, and I am excited to share an even bigger project with you very soon!

 

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Modern Motherhood: This One’s For My Girls (And Yours)

October 27, 2014 By: Stephanie13 Comments

Today I board a plane. 

Tomorrow I will be sitting on a panel of women from across North America discussing the sexualization of Halloween costumes for young girls. We’re talking with Glenn Beck, who might not be the first person who comes to mind when you think about this issue. But that is the point: to get more people involved.

To get EVERYONE involved that I possibly can.

As I pack Spanx and makeup and hair products in my suitcase, I feel the guilt and hypocrisy weigh heavy on my shoulders.

As I wish I could have lost ten or fifteen pounds before all of these television appearances started happening, and wonder about the woman sitting next to me on the panel. Will she be prettier than me? Thinner?

I was confident about my words and my message when I agreed to this trip, but not nearly as comfortable about what I should wear.

What does that say about the way we treat women? Girls? 

That I am so conditioned to worry about the way I will look and be judged that I almost forgot to be excited for this amazing opportunity. 

I know the comments will come. They already have, and they will continue. I know this, and I can handle it. 

I don’t particularly care what you think about my body or my face, but I will be damned if I let my daughters or yours grow up in a world that judges them that way without doing everything I possibly can to stop it. 

And I’ll be damned even further if I let them start doing it to themselves. 

We are planting seeds. 

The ones we nurture, they will grow.

 There is more to our girls than the way they look.   

There is more to every woman than the way that she looks. 

There is nothing wrong with wanting to be attractive, put your best self forward, or even be seen as sexy, if you are a grown woman capable of making those choices for yourself. 

But that is the dilemma of modern motherhood: how do we raise girls who are confident in their bodies, who respect themselves, but also know that they are so much more than just those bodies?  

Our daughters are not accessories to dress up and put on display. 

They are scientists and teachers and artists in the making. 

They need to learn how to be recognized for who they are, not how they look. 

However, that is not the message that we send. We do not practice what we preach. 

It is not the message of the ridiculously sexualizing Halloween costumes I will be discussing tomorrow. It is not the message of the half-naked women on the magazine covers. 

But do you know what? 

It’s also not the message of the well-meaning stranger at the grocery store who asks my son what he is learning in school, then turns to my daughter and tells her she has very pretty hair, and walks away. 

It’s not the message behind, “You look so cute today! I bet that dress is great for twirling!”

Those kinds of comments may be fine in moderation, but when the conversation starts and stops with how our daughters look, what are we saying really? 

Where does the worth of a woman lie?

(Hint: Not between anyone’s sheets.)  

So, I will take my chubby arms and my one crooked tooth, and I will march onto that set tomorrow. I do not promise to be comfortable, but I promise I will show up, and I will speak up. 

For your daughters and for mine. 

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 This is only one step in a much bigger journey. There is a larger project coming, and I will need your help. If you want to get involved, please follow along on my Binkies and Briefcases Facebook page. I will be letting you in on some more secrets very soon!

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Ten Things I Learned When My Blog Post Went Viral

October 23, 2014 By: Stephanie8 Comments

Great tips for how to keep followers around and control the infulx of new blog traffic when a blog post goes viral.

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I have no idea if there is a secret number of shares or likes that make a blog post count as “viral.”

But, I’m guessing that since this one was picked up by The Huffington Post, Elle.com, Redbook.com, Today.com, featured on Good Morning America, and I keep being asked to do tv and radio appearances, it is safe to officially use the “v” word now.

My social media following has quadrupled over the last few weeks and my pageviews shot up into the hundreds of thousands over night. I’m trying my best to respond to every email and Facebook message personally, but there have been thousands, so I really am very sorry if I have missed a few.

I don’t know if this post will be of any interest to my regular blog readers, but I know there are other writers out there who are curious about exactly what happens when a blog post goes viral. I can only speak from my own experience, but here is my list of Ten Things I Learned When My Blog Post Went Viral:

  1. Get Yourself A Good Hosting Company: Now. My blog crashed several times during the first few days that the post was starting to gain popularity. I had previously been on a shared server and the extra traffic kept crashing it. I cannot thank A Small Orange enough for all of the time they spent on the phone with me, transferring me to my own VPS hosting, helping me set up CloudFlare, and just remaining patient, calm, and working fast behind the scenes while I freaked out. (UPDATE: since this post was written, we have switched out hosting to Servously.) 
  2. Set Up Google DFP or join a network like The Blogger Network. I don’t care what your page views are. I don’t care if the “experts” say to wait until you have at least 200K views per month. Just go ahead and set up DFP right now. I did have AdSense ads on my blog, but I literally lost thousands of dollars because I did not have DFP (DoubleClick For Publishers) set up before I went viral. It’s a giant pain in the butt and it takes a lot of time, but just do it. Ironically, I had tried to hire someone to set up DFP for me before, but he told me that it would be a waste of his time and my money until my pageviews were higher. Guess who was wrong? Yeah, that guy. Just do it now.
  3. Choose Your Words Very Carefully. I used the word “partnership” in that blog post because Target did, in fact, offer to work with me as a consumer. Although, they did not put me on their pay roll or make specific promises to change any designs, only to take in feedback from me and my audience. We had several phone calls, they gave me a direct line to their PR department, they offered to set up a phone call between me and one of their designers, and to send samples. In my mind, “partnership” is a perfectly decent word to describe that situation, and I was thrilled that they were willing to be open to a relationship with consumers. In the minds of large retailers, not so much. I don’t think they were thrilled that I used that word. (Actually, I’m quite sure they weren’t thrilled.) I’ve had to make several statements since to the tune of “I am NOT working FOR Target.” I’m not working for anyone, actually. And, for the moment, I intend to keep it that way so that I can continue to address this issue without any sort of conflict of interest.
  4. Most People Are Really Nice. Of the thousands of emails and comments I have received, the majority have been overwhelmingly supportive. Thank you all so much for taking the time to reach out and make me feel like I am making a difference! This has been my favorite part of this whole experience.
  5. Some People Are Not So Nice, And Some Are Just Plain Ol’ Crazy. I don’t mind when people disagree with me respectfully and use well thought-out arguments. I will happily publish comments that offer differing opinions. However, this space on the internet is mine. I pay for it. I own it. So, yes, if your comments are attacking me, my children, or other readers, and I see them, I will take them down or just not publish them in the first place. If I wouldn’t let you say it to my face in my house, I’m not publishing your comment on my blog, and I will ban you from my Facebook page. Not sorry. See below for an example. (I apologize for the language. This was a relativity mild one. I’d also like to note that I actually did publish the first one, so the new more hateful one wasn’t even necessary.)moderating comments
  6.  People Do Not Understand Copyright Laws. The words and pictures on my blog and everyone else’s are protected by copyright. I created this content, so I own it in much the same way that a small business owner who was selling handmade items in a brick and mortar store would own the items in their shop. You are welcome to take a few sentences of someone’s blog post, quote them, and link back to the original post. It’s even fairly common practice to share one picture (with permission) and give that person credit for their work. But please do not take my entire post, copy it, and paste it into your own blog because you “love it so much.” It penalizes both of us in terms of search engine optimization and it’s illegal. So, just don’t do that. Please.
  7. You Never Know Which Post Will Be “The One” for You. When I walked into Target and pulled a tape measure off the shelf, I had NO IDEA how much attention that post was going to get. There was no way I could have known it was going to be on the national morning show in Canada, or translated into German, or that I would be hearing from parents in Australia and Ireland. I have been blogging for 5 years on this little corner of the internet. In two weeks, it blew up and all of the sudden I was “The Mom Who Took on Target” and Good Morning America was in my living room. It has been a crazy ride.
  8. Do Not Stop There. Have An End Game In Mind. Once it becomes clear that something you wrote has struck a nerve, don’t just stop. Since my new audience seemed so interested in finding more modest clothing options for their daughters, the very first things I did were to start this Pinterest board and the #ModestMavens hashtag and Stamp of Approval. I am reviewing clothing from large and small retailers, but I am not accepting any sort of monetary payment for these reviews because I want those reviews to stay fair and unbiased. 
  9.  Let Your Writing Speak For Itself  No matter how many nasty comments come up on pages like The Huffington Post or other large websites, do not jump into that conversation. Just stay out of it. Detach yourself from the comments and discussions, unless it is just to offer a quick “Thank you so much for sharing my piece!” on someone’s Facebook page. Other people will jump in to defend you, your job as a writer is just to start the conversation. Besides, polarizing views can actually be good for you. Whether people are sharing your piece because they think you are brilliant and you touched their hearts, or because they are asking their friends, “Can you believe this idiot?” they are still sharing it. And that is ultimately good for you.
  10. Surround Yourself With People You Can Trust. This is true in pretty much any aspect of life, but be very wary if you are standing in the middle of a media blitz and people start reaching out and asking you to do things. Some of these opportunities might seem amazing, but take a minute to step back and reflect and talk to people you have known for years, who are familiar with this business, and can offer you solid advice. And remember, “No.” is still an acceptable answer.

 To follow the Pinterest board I started for cute and less revealing clothing for little girls, you can click here: 

Follow Stephanie {Binkies and Briefcases} ‘s board Cute and Modest Options for Girls on Pinterest.

I’m still not entirely sure that it has been revealed to me yet why exactly all of this is happening to me, but I am grateful that it is and I hope that this post and the others here on the blog are able to help all of you in some way.

Thank you again for all of your support in this crazy journey!

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Practical advice for writers who want to get their work published. There are some great tips here!

 

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Stephanie Giese is an indie author based in Florida. She writes stories about realistic problems with humor, heart, and sass. Her work has a strong focus on mental health and consent. Her North Bay small-town romance series is set for release in 2025.

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