This is a sponsored post written by me on behalf of Figleaves.
Eddie and I have been a couple for fourteen years. With three little kids, jobs, owning a home, and dealing with the extra stress of raising a child with special needs, it can be hard to prioritize each other.
But I think it is really important to take time every day to reconnect with your spouse.
I reached out to you on my Facebook page and asked how you keep the romance alive. I took your list and added in a few of my own.
So here are our top 10 ways to reconnect with your partner throughout the day:
1. Use Social Media.
Rachael says, “Sexting and naughty Snapchats.. although many times the Snapchats backfire, because I will take one and be so disgusted by the photo I immediately delete it and go eat a salad.”
She’s teasing, but I know how that goes. Once I tried to seduce my husband via private Facebook messaging and this happened:
2. Take Time to Daydream
Shari says, “It seems to help us when we break away from the day to day logistics talk & dream about the future together. It takes us back to when we were first dating & always talking about the future. It also reminds us of how good a team we are & how we love doing everything together. Taking the focus off of poopy diapers & dirty dishes also helps get into a better mindset for spicy activities.”
3. Snuggle Time
Danielle shared, “LOTS of snuggling, but also sometimes snuggling naked (or close to). Even if nothing ‘happens’ afterwards, it’s great.”
Well, it’s getting kind of hot in here.
4. Keep Secrets with (not from) each other.
Tabatha didn’t want to share. “Ha ha…. awkward… If I didn’t personally know so many people that follow your blog, I MIGHT actually tell you.”
I don’t blame you, Tab, it’s great to build up that trust with your husband so that you both know whatever happens in the bedroom stays there.
5. Have Date Nights
We have a very hard time getting out of the house while our kids are still so young, but at least once a week Eddie and I will have a date night in. He will run out after the kids are in bed to pick up take out and a movie. Or sometimes we just sit and play a board game together.
6. Small Stuff Counts
It means a lot to me when my husband remembers the small stuff and tries to help me out. Like when I say that I was planning to wear a certain outfit to an event, but it’s dirty, and he comes home from work the next day with a dry cleaning bag containing my freshly laundered dress. Or when he unloads the dishwasher before leaving for work in the morning.
I try to do the same. Maybe I’ll pick up his favorite candy while I’m in the check-out line or check something like “call the electric company and ask [some specific question]” of of his to do list, even if he didn’t ask me to.
7. Try to Participate in the Other’s Interests
I hate traditional sports. I’m not good at them and I don’t have a competitive bone in my body. I won’t ever be the wife who is wearing the football jersey and cheering loudly next to her husband on the couch as they watch the game. But I do take the kids and cheer Eddie on when he plays volleyball and I try to participate in other things he likes. That’s how we both became obsessed with The Walking Dead. I never would have started watching a show about the zombie apocalypse on my own, but it’s fun to share that interest with my husband and now we have something to look forward to each week. (Although I don’t know how we will make it all the way until the fall when the next season starts!)
When we were in high school, Eddie actually joined the cheerleading squad in an attempt to share that interest with me. Ladies, if a guy does that for you, marry him.
We were married very young. People would ask me all the time how I could possible know he was “the one.” The answer is easy. He can always make me laugh. I can do the same for him. We have been through some very heavy stuff, but no matter what else is going on, we can always do that for each other. When someone knows how to make you crack up laughing when you are in the middle of sobbing uncontrollably, that person is your best friend, and you need to keep him/her around. Forever.
Men in particular, are very visual. Taking, ahem, romantic pictures with your husband can be really fun. It can also lead to some really silly moments. Here’s what happened when we tried to take some super serious and romantic shots for this post.
At first Eddie wasn’t so into the fact that I was going to make him be in the pictures too, but he came around.
There are other pictures, but they are more of the PG-13 variety and won’t be seen on this blog because I had a wardrobe change, which brings me to…
10. Spice things up with a new outfit or lingerie.
I was provided with the Portia set, designed by Curvy Kate from Figleaves. I am a very curvy woman and I really appreciated that they actually had my bra size! (I ordered a 38G)
Any large-busted woman knows it can be really frustrating to try to find cute lingerie because most of the stores in the mall don’t even carry your size and the specialty stores usually only have very plain ones in three colors: white, black, and tan.
When Eddie saw the lacey lime green set with pink ribbon from Figleaves sitting on top of my dresser he actually said out loud, “Well, Merry Christmas to me!”
I recommend ordering a size or two up for the bottoms. I am normally a dress size 10 or 12 and I ordered the bottoms in a size 16 and they fit perfectly.
However, Figleaves is not only a service for large-busted women (although I really appreciate that they cater to us too!). They actually carry bra sizes A-K and over 200 different brands, so they really do have something for “every body.”
And if you are single and just want to treat yourself to something cute, this could be a fun way to do it.
If you use the code LOVE10 before May 1st, you can get 10% off of your order. Read about the terms and conditions first.
This is a sponsored post written by me on behalf of Figleaves. I received compensation for writing this post as well as a sample of the product shown. All opinions are my own.