
For almost a month now, I have been telling you that I have been working on a super secret project.
Well, I can finally tell you what it is!
After our story went viral, I realized how important the issue of girls’ clothing really is and how many other cultural implications are tied to it, so I started writing a book. But as more comments and emails and pictures from you poured in, I very quickly realized that some stories just need to be told in a more visual way. I needed to be able to share more pictures, more interviews with professionals, and conversations with the girls themselves. I needed more viewpoints than just my own, and more than I could pack into the pages of a book.
I needed to turn this into a documentary.
So I called my friend Jeremy about a month ago (Remember how I told you he owns a production company?) and together we came up with the concept for Seamingly Obvious. It will be a feature-length documentary that explores the sexualization of women via the media and fashion industries today and its long-term psychological effects on a girl’s sense of identity. We will interview representatives from the fashion industry, developmental psychologists, parents, and children in an effort to discover how our current cultural attitudes affect the various stages of development.
I am so excited to have the amazing opportunity to partner with Awarehouse Productions and Percepto Studios to make that vision a reality!
And we’ve actually already started. (Fair warning, there are a few PG-13 images in the first 30 seconds of this video, which are only meant to serve as examples of what our daughters are seeing on magazine covers and advertisements every day.)
Seamingly Obvious from PERCEPTO STUDIOS and Awarehouse Productions.
(Click the gear icon and make sure it is set to 720HD for the best viewing experience.)
Partnering with small, independent film companies was a very purposeful decision. In the height of the media frenzy that surrounded my blog post calling out Target, I was approached by several large retailers, and I told some of them about this idea. But when they asked if I would use the same vendors that they use to shoot commercials for their products, it left a bad taste in my mouth.
I knew I couldn’t in good conscious put this project in someone else’s hands. Jeremy was the one who encouraged me and introduced me to the best people he knows—which is how we put together our team—but said that I was going to have to be the one who told this story and directed the film. (gulp!)
Then the American Psychological Association expressed interest in helping since our mission ties directly into a report that their task force put together, and I knew I had a responsibility to keep myself un-biased. So we decided to try to crowd-source this project, which is going to be a huge undertaking. And it means that I need your help.
I want to be able to continue to tell this story honestly, in my own words, the way I have been doing all along.
We all agree that media has been part of the problem.
I want to use it as part of the solution.
We have a big goal, but I am confident that we can achieve it together.
Everyone knows that movies are very expensive to make.
We need to raise $100,000 to make this one.
I know that is a lot of money– it’s more than I paid for my first house.
I also know that this movie is important. And I know you think it is important too, because you told me so. Those are your words in the beginning of the video. We took them directly from comments you left on my Facebook page.
So, I’m asking you today if you can donate $10, $20, $50 or whatever you can afford, so that this momentum doesn’t stop at one mom’s blog post. I know that we can turn this into a major movement toward change.
Because our daughters deserve better.
I am donating my time to this project and I refuse to take a salary out of the money you provide. The money will all go toward equipment, travel, production, and post-processing costs. And it goes a lot faster than you think.
For weeks now you have been asking me what you can do, how you can help. This is a chance to do it. This can be the first step in achieving the changes that we all want to see. So please share this post and donate what your family can afford.
Also, please visit the website for Seamingly Obvious and like our Facebook page. Please share these pages on your social media channels. The further we can spread the word, the better.
Thank you so much for your continued support. I cannot wait to see how far we can get together!
Head on over to our website to make a donation!



Steph, I am so, so proud of you for doing this. Thanks for taking a stand for all of us and MAKING THIS HAPPEN!!!
Very excited about this project!!!
I think it would be interesting to go shopping with girls after interviewing them. My daughter knows how she should dress, we talk about it everyday. Yet when she goes to the mall with her friends we are often shocked by what she brings home. How could the girl we have lovingly taught all these years make such poor fashion choices when they are on their own?!? I’m amazed at the blindness that occurs at the rack and tired of returning clothes.
I love your movement in getting retailers to offer more modest clothing for girls! I hear many Mom’s say well they can’t find modest clothes and give into what’s available. I am not that Mom and sometimes it means we have to search a little harder or get creative. My teens and I have been using Dressing Your Truth program for several years now and it has branched into our whole family with my husband and boys included. It has helped us all make the best fashion choices for who we are individually and not what the fashion industry dictates. We all get tons of compliments and yet I don’t spend a ton of money on clothes, but they are always modest. You should check it out to go along with your documentary. http://www.stacey.dressingyourtruth.com
Talk about taking the ball and running with it. You go!
This gave me goosebumps! ! Im so proud to have been involved in this!
WOW!!! This is awesome!!
Great trailer. Loved the opening sequence. The sexualization of our young daughters is very disturbing and quite perplexing.
Oh, Stephanie, this is fantastic! I raised 2 daughters and they are beautiful, godly women. But I remember dealing with these very issues. Kids grow up fast enough as it is… I’m with you!
This is so refreshing! Thank you so much for what you have done! Thankfully my girls don’t even like most of the clothes at target, etc but it’s so hard to shop for them. They don’t like the short shorts and skinny jeans and the fitted shirts/dresses. They want feminine just not what’s in the stores. It’s too tight and way to revealing.
You have made a really great point. I work with 5 year old children and it is horrifying the way some girls are dressed, including the ridiculous high heel shoes. How are they supposed to run and play in those?!
But it is a problem for women too. I don’t wear 1-2″ shorts but I don’t like knee length shorts, as I have short legs. I have a very hard time finding nice mid-town shorts. Went to the Loft, figuring it was designed for grown women but the shorts were inappropriate for 40 year old women to wear. Call me a prude, but I don’t think we should be imitating 45-50 year old artists like J. Lopez.